I hate when I get into a verbal fight with someone and after it’s over someone else comes in and is all, “Well that person was an asshole but your response was kind of imma—”
No, you back the fuck up. If I’m being a cool cucumber about something and someone comes in and starts insulting me, trying to personally offend and anger me, then I no longer have the responsibility to be nice or mature. Is it good if I can stay cool and not resort to anger? Yeah, it’s fucking beautiful and when I’m able to do that I deserve all the sweet props. But if I slip up and actually get mad and defensive toward someone who is legitimately being an asshole to me, that’s fine too (y’know as long as it doesn’t end in assault or murder).
I am allowed to have emotional responses to things. I am not made of stone, I am an organic human being and I react as such, sometimes passionately.